How to Get Kids to Do Chores—Without Nagging

Do you feel like a broken record when it comes to getting your kids to do chores? If you’re tired of reminding, repeating, and pleading ("Did you clean your room yet?"), you’re not alone.

We know that regular chores for kids are great for development of self-esteem, but truth is: Nagging kids to get things done never works. But there’s a better way to get kids to do their responsibilities—without the daily struggle.

Want to Know Our Secret? Responsibilities Before Privileges

Instead of reminding and nagging, shift the focus to a simple system:

No screen time until chores are done. No outdoor play before responsibilities are finished. No video games until tasks are completed.

By making privileges dependent on responsibilities, you put the motivation in your child’s hands. No more battles—just clear expectations.

How to Set Up Chores for Kids

1. Be Clear About Expectations: Decide on reasonable, age-appropriate tasks (e.g., washing their own laundry, tidying their room, or setting the table).

2. Create a Simple “When/Then” Rule: Instead of reminding, let them know:

   • “When your chores are done, then you can play.”

   • “When the laundry is folded, then you can go on your phone.”

3. Stay Consistent: Stick to the rule—without exceptions. Kids quickly learn what they need to do before they can do what they want.

4. Let Them Own It: Give them responsibility for their tasks. If they don’t do it, they miss out on privileges—no arguments needed.

When kids understand the system, you no longer have to nag—because they already know what’s expected.

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